I can't imagine what you're going through. It's going to take a long time to get over because you were in love and still are.

Many of us identify as a couple. When we're in public or private or whatever, it's not Webgoji or Mrs. Webgoji, it's always Mr. and Mrs. Webgoji. We're one entity both in the eyes of the world and in our minds. It sounds like it was that way for you too.

Now in your case, it sounds like you were investing more than you could afford to lose which means, as you know, it's time to move on. But that doesn't change your feelings, it doesn't change that now it's just Pearlys.

Do remember the good things, but don't cling to them. Work on Pearlys as a good person that's learned and grown. Use those times to understand they made you a better person and thank and forgive her for those times. But you need to find a relationship where both of you have your needs and wants fulfilled. Not just moments, but every day.

Hang in there, it's rough, but you'll be all the better for it.