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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I know written is different than verbal, but from what I read it sounds like your T meant "But you would lie to me?" I don't necessarily think it's jealously. It might be him figuring out where he stands for you. I assume (so sorry if I'm wrong), that some of your therapy is around T1? So if he knows your thoughts and feelings are with him and T1, he can better gauge your progress. Maybe? Just trying to give you a different perspective.
Maybe what's important here is not how your T thinks or feels, but why it bothers you that he might be thinking/feelings a certain way. What does that mean to you? Would that affect your relationship with him? Could it be that you're comparing the two, not him? Again, just trying a different perspective.
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Thank you, that's a really interesting thought and probably what I will end up discussing with him next week. I have lacked consistency and security in my life and his consistency (unwavering boundaries, unflappable attitude and the same appt time every week) has been essential for me in getting over T1.
Some of my therapy is spent on T1, but much less than before, and I am starting to tackle some really deep issues of my own. The thing about T1 only came up because I mentioned I'm thinking about getting some marriage counseling, then we started talking generally about getting therapy in more than one place, so it's not like this was a massive conversation about T1.
I think it is definitely the fact it doesn't seem as consistently solid as I would expect from him that bothered me. It's also the first time I think he's opened his mouth and said something without considering the therapeutic value of what he's saying. I have an idea of him in my head and that statement doesn't match my idea of him.
Thanks for asking that question.