Chris,

I understand your wanting info on dismissive avoidant personality.. No one here is a Doctor so we cant diagnosis or even toss out an educated guess. Personality disorders are very tricky and many Doctors have a hard time putting a finger on the exact disorder/illness. All your left with are list of possible symptoms that may or may not fit ...

The reality is break ups happen, sometimes we know why , often times we will never know exactly what went wrong, Seldom do the parties find closure, Broken hearts, loose ends and confusion are often whats left in the wake of things, Life just doesn't like to tie up all the pieces in a box with a red bow on top. I am not dismissing your pain and heart ache, You are hurting its plain to see in your posting.

I'm not sure what support you are wanting and/or needing... Do you know what will help you?

If blaming this on a Personality disorder will help you move forward then by all means do that... Everyone has to find a way to move forward even if its at a snails pace, but once your moving it really does get easier.. Will you be totally over it next week or next month? Nope.... She meant a lot to you. You will probably always look back on her with fond memories once the fresh white hot pain has had time to cool a bit and it will.. Time really does help the healing process.

My advice is simple, take it day by day, Don't beat yourself up.. seems like mistakes were made on both your parts. It happens, we are all human beings after all.