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Originally Posted by ChrisNet82
Your obviously not understanding what happened. Also, if you had read any of the other things related to this before jumping to point the finger, you'd see that I already know I was making those mistakes, & yes, part of it was to satisfy my feelings. I wasn't taking a brand & claiming her. We had both declared or hearts to each other. When I say that I was "hers", it is sentiment. Not psychotic claiming or something like that. What we felt for one another was mutually felt. It's not as if I was so delusional to think she felt something else. She told wanted to marry me, to have children with me. She wanted me to move in, & had already talked about moving to be with me. Seriously talked about it. Not playfully. Meant it. We were truly feeling very deep connections. At some point, don't I get to feel like of it was about me at all? When she tells me wants me to move in & be her husband, doesn't that entitle me to some propriety at all? Am I wrong for feeling bad & being in pain after she rejected me? For having anxiety attacks when she stopped talking completely a week after she told me she wanted to get pregnant? I care deeply about her. It wasn't some selfish tirade. It wasn't all about me. It was about us.
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You knew you were "making" mistakes, but you kept on doing it. You called her and called her even when she asked you to stop. You invaded her boundaries, do you understand that?
You talk about her challenged history, well, even more reason to respect "her" boundaries.
She opened herself up to you, and now she is probably seeing her own mistakes too. However, you were way too obsessive, constantly calling her and then even at work? You proved to her that you are the type of person who doesn't respect boundaries even when asked to several times. No means "no", it's as simple as that.
That is what I am pointing at. It is important you understand "boundaries", and that means even when someone says they want you the way she did. That is the very hard take away lesson from this experience for you. Don't bother her, wait at least a month and then perhaps write her an appology note where you are recognizing what you did was wrong and you are very sorry and that's it, no more letters or pushing or calling with this woman. Anything further has to come from "her", if that doesn't happen then you have to respect that.