Nobody is going to force me to admit to something I am not doing. I am not generalizing at all, I thought I made it pretty clear that I'm referring to 10% of the women who are doing it, and yes they (these 10%) are more shallow than men, and they are also the type who are hanging out on the internet accusing certain men of being like this and being like that, on places like Yahoo answers for example, and it is some poor guy's misfortune to encounter them and be burned by their hateful diatribe.

YOU are saying I am angry, bitter, hateful and all the rest, and you clearly know more about what's going on in my own head than me myself. I PROMISE you I am not any of those things you say, and I resist your highly subjective and skewed analysis of me. Yes, sure, I harbour some deep-seated feelings towards certain people, but that's simply because they have proven me right for 20 years through their words and actions. Why on earth would I feel anything towards someone if they did nothing to me?

I speak of these particular women because I have had numerous encounters with them myself over the years, and I had to sit back and listen to them falsely accuse me of things I wouldn't even dream of doing and sit back and listen to them tear my character apart.

Do you have any idea how it feels to be a reserved man, all shy and awkward? To muster all the courage you have and then to take a step you've never taken before, go all out and actually approach people, especially women, only to get blown off and dismissed as naught? Still, you don't give up, you think "I'll try again, not all of them can be like that" so you do it all again, you pick yourself up and you approach someone new, and presto, it actually goes well. You think "yeah, I was right, it was only that one person's opinion, see, this person doesn't dislike me", so you go one step further, trying to build the friendship, and then it happens, they begin simply ignoring you. Days later you see that person exchanging more than pleasantries with someone else and you realize you've been pushed aside. Still you don't give up, but you realize you need help. So, you go onto the place where everyone goes for information, the internet. You go and try to find information about what it is that's holding you back, and you stumble upon something "Why women don't like you" and by looking at the title you think wow this guy knows exactly what my problem is! So, you start reading, and it's a rude awakening. In there, you find out you're not even in the same league as anyone else, not even close. You've got problems you didn't even know you had. You are crushed at that point, you think, let me just look at some of the comments, maybe someone disagrees, you search for that positive silver lining. No, the comments are even worse than the article, all the women commenting couldn't agree more, they totally back up the writer of the article. You go away devastated, crushed and broken. You begin to think wow if so many women agreed, it is an indication of what they truly must be feeling inside. I mean, the comments are anonymous, so the perfect platform for honesty. You realize there must be something wrong with you. Years you spend in therapy, you join sites like PsychCentral, looking for answers. You search and search and search for an awakening from this nightmare, you can't believe just how distanced you are from the rest of the world and their viewpoint. All the time while doing this, you still don't give up, you still try and approach people, approach women in particular, and sometimes it goes well but all the friendships basically end the same way - they ditch you for someone else. You try to be strong, hold your head up, and say this won't get you down, still you don't quit, you don't want to believe it's impossible, so you still try. You can't even believe your own persistence, you know most other guys would've given up long ago already. So, you think, I'll try online dating, surely those women are not judgmental and dismissive as the normal women out there. They know how it is to be lonely you think, and will be much more accommodating. Huge mistake. These women are even worse. You send them messages (something along the lines of Hi, I like your profile) and they don't even respond, some of them block you or delete their profile. You think, wow, did I offend that person enough with my saying hello that they felt they had to delete their profile? You realize this isn't going to work, so you give up on online dating. Back to square one, this time with all your courage broken. You see women walking everywhere and it becomes an obsession, you begin to think what is it? What is this thing I seem to lack? You see couples everywhere, you see relationships developing in your workplace, at your local gym, and you think "but, I thought it was wrong to approach women at work or at the gym, because that's what they were saying all along". You become totally confused and realize it must be because of guys like you why they say that, because it clearly doesn't apply to other guys. You begin to feel that there is definitely something they've got against you as a person. So, you go back to the internet, back here to PC, you seek help, you read of another guy with the same issue, and then people turn around and say you're crazy, you've got some issues. And you know what, they're right! Yes, you've got issues...but, what if you don't? You've been sitting here for years trying to find the answers and you never did. What if there was never anything to find?

You see, that's when I began to question it all. All these things went on in my mind because I assumed they should apply to me, I mean after all, I am that guy the women were speaking of in the comments, right? Right? Maybe not.

You begin to probe for the real reason, and you find out it's because these people, especially the women, are even sicker in the head than you! They've got so many issues, they need to load it off onto your shoulders just to breathe. They project all their fears onto you and by doing so don't have to face up to their own stuff, because you've taken that load for them.

And that's what I am trying to get across to Shadix. You DON'T have to be what others have said you are, especially women. Why do I say women? Because from experience women never question anything and will always believe the first thing they hear or see, and I'm yet to be proven wrong. They always assume the worst, and then when proven wrong, they pretend like they didn't know! If you don't know then don't assume!

So, I'm sorry, but I am NOT going to accept whatever issues it is that people are trying to project onto me here. I am no sexist, I don't hate women, I am not angry and not bitter, and I am not going to accept that analysis simply because it fits whatever psycho-babble theory came up with so-called "symptoms".

And before anyone gets on their high horse again, consider this - aren't you doing exactly what I was doing? JUST LIKE ME you saw things and immediately believed the worst. You see my words and immediately believe I must be a woman-hater, just like I was rejected and immediately believed it must be something wrong with me.

As I said, don't assume.

You know, and just in case someone is sitting here and still thinks I'm a hateful idiot, I'll point out something rather ironic - so many sit here and say "don't assume things about people, how they think, you don't know what's going on in their lives" and all the rest of it, pages of it in this thread alone. And then, what's the first thing everyone does? They assume they know what's going on in my head!!!