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Old Jul 31, 2015, 05:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Hooligan View Post
Perhaps you can ask him specific things that you would like him to do?

I don't know that he intentionally meant to invalidate your feelings but probably just isn't in your headspace right now and doesn't realise the extent to which this is seriously bothering you.

I've learnt that I can't always control how I feel.

But I can control how I react and my behaviour towards a given situation.

I wouldn't be comfortable living in a disorganised house. No, I would not relax either.

Maybe you can make a list of what things you think need to be done. And sit down together and as a couple decide who is prepared to do what and when?

I've actually taken a big white board and charted out all the days of the week on it. I use it to plan meals (so that way we won't have the "whats for dinner" fight anymore), and I also have a list of chores and how often they need to be done (once or twice a week for most of them.) The problem is getting him to follow the program! I keep up with my end, and check off things as they're done, but even if he does a chore (like washing dishes) he doesn't put a check mark on the board. It drives me crazy since this white board thing was his idea originally. Sigh.
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