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T said "no, though you put your adoptive mother at a distance, it was her job to get you back, something she didn't do"

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mouse, I really identify with this statement. I am the mom of two wonderful girls, and the youngest has pushed me away so much. I have tried for years to "get her back" but have been unsuccessful. It makes me very sad. It is deadening to try so hard and be rebuffed time and time again. But still I keep plugging away, even though it is painful. ECHOES said she pushed her mom away to punish her. Is my daughter punishing me? Why? What can I do differently to reach her? I really, really have tried, but failed. My other daughter and I have a wonderful relationship so I know I can at least connect to one of my offspring. But I want to have a good relationship with both of them, yet I have not found the key to unlock the secret to connecting with my youngest. I wish my daughter could just tell me what is the matter and why she hates me. At least I would know and have a fighting chance to improve things. Recently, I did get her to go see a therapist and my hopes are that she will find someone in her therapist she can connect with, relate to, and even love a little. If it won't be me, I love her enough to want her to succeed with someone.