That's all wonderful until you try and apply it in the real world. To think that the answers to everything lies squarely on your two shoulders is still going to come back to bite you in the butt, I hope you can handle the pain and rejection when that does happen.

If you keep swimming in the sea and keep getting bitten by sharks, there comes a time when you got to say to yourself let me rather get out of the sea and find my kicks elsewhere. You can't sit on the beach either and stare at the waves hoping to return to the water one day and all the sharks miraculously have died off. Become a big game hunter on land or whatever instead. Basically - change. That's all you can do. If something doesn't work - change it, and then, change it some more. And, once you think you've changed enough, you'll see - change it even more. And once you think well now I've gone far enough, go even doubly further, and then go some more. Eventually you're so far from where you were you don't even remember where, who or what that was.

That was the only thing I found worked for depression, which most people posting in this thread probably have. Change. Big change. Scary change. Leap of faith type change. I could possibly die doing this type change.

If you need to travel a 1000 miles to do it, do it. If you don't have a car, take a bus, if you can't take a bus, you better start walking. You gotta do what you gotta do to get to the top of the world, no matter what.

If there's one thing that defines people who succeed - they NEVER quit. They will cash in EVERYTHING if it means they can succeed.

In terms of the goal - you have to be EXTREMELY specific in what you want, and I mean specific. That is a key thing most people mess up.

So, let's talk about it in terms of finding your dream partner for example. You want that person to be kind, caring, accepting, accommodating, loving, attractive. Now, most people stop here - MISTAKE NUMBER 1. Don't stop here - this describes 5 of the 7 billion people out there, it's WAY too vague. Go further - the person needs to like your hobbies, they need to like the way you work, your working hours, your favourite relaxation techniques. NOW STILL it doesn't stop there - MISTAKE NUMBER 2 - it's not all about your qualities they like it's also about their qualities you like, what about them - what's their hobbies they have that you'd like, how long should they work, what's their favourite relaxation techniques?

Now you've nailed down all this. MISTAKE NUMBER 3 - people know what they want and then compromise after not finding it in the first few attempts!
DON'T CHANGE YOUR RULES! This is your game and your goal. Even if you have to date 1,000,000 people, do it! Keep going till you find 100% of what you want. 99% is a FAIL and you will feel it! A crate of 1000 green apples is ruined if 1 is red and 999 are green, not so? You need to go far and wide to replace red apple number 1 with green apple number 1000 to make it a green crate. That's the key, the successful person NEVER gives up, and I mean never gives up. I don't think people grasp that, so I'll say it again, they NEVER give up! And there is never compromise on any level.

Most of the issues here are stemming from "I want a girlfriend". What the f--k does that mean? Never a more vague question have I ever heard. What kind of girlfriend do you want? Must she be tall, short, blonde, black-haired, smart, stupid, ugly, pretty, fat, thin...? You get my point. Most guys stop at the quality of "attractive" or "sexy" and then are surprised when it all goes wrong. Attractive alone is not going to work, because the other qualities of both parties did not match the goal in mind. And, just because YOU placed a high value on looks, DOES NOT mean the others will not suddenly come into play. It took the tip of one iceberg off the coast of Nova Scotia to sink the Titanic, even though it nearly sailed across the whole Atlantic and was almost all the way from Ireland to New York. Another thing - if you fail in the end stage, you fail the whole thing! You need to carry through totally, not 90% of the way. You see, you actually know what you want all along, but you're just not tapped into all of it, because you've never really sat down hard and long enough and laid it out for you. Sure, you've sat down and thought about it long and hard, but you need to think some more.

It is 100 times harder to go from 99 to 100 than it is to go from 0 to 99. The last mile of a journey is the make or break mile. You can do the whole journey and throw the whole lot away in the last few yards.

Only when everything is right, then everything is right.

Relationships - it's a 50/50 partnership. So why are you making it 100 you and 0 her?! She needs to give her 50% too. Men trick themselves, they think when a woman is beautiful she's given way over 50% so he must match her by giving way more than 50%. YOU are putting that premium on beauty and you are tricking yourself. If you give 90% then truly I tell you, she'll give 10% !!! And when someone only gives 10%, IT WILL FAIL!

A relationship comes from both sides equally. One party can never exceed their 50%, no matter what qualities they have or what they say. So if you give your 50%, and that person is giving 10%, leave them and move to the other person who is going to give you the other 50% to make it a full 100.

Guys and girls - if a relationship feels like too much hard work, if any woman/man feels like too much hard work, then it is too much hard work and you can thank your lucky stars you didn't end up with that person.

Shadix - go find your other half, your one to complete the other 50. Don't give up, never give up!!! Those women you encountered only gave 10%, that's why you feel unfulfilled. They are trying to force you up to 90% to make up the difference, and that's why you feel so emotionally drained. Do you really want to end up with someone who saps you like that?

Be happy, be glad, you dodged a bullet my friend! Now go and find your one, the one you love. You CANNOT fail!