Sorry, but it's not the same. I don't approach women, not out of fear of rejection, but out of fear of being SHAMED by her or by others. Rejection is normal and acceptable. If the girl has a boyfriend, ANY guy who approaches her will be rejected. But not all of them will be shamed. Shaming is something completely different. Women are not shamed for showing interest in men. And gorgeous men are not shamed for showing interest in age-appropriate women. If an undesirable man approaches a woman, there will always be some excuse to shame him. Whether it's that "he's approaching her at work" or "he doesn't know her, he just likes her looks that's superficial" or "she has a boyfriend, that is disrespectful" there is always SOMETHING. But if the guy is desirable, none of these things will be brought up, because she likes it.