I also have social anxiety (and came out of some serious depression about half a year ago). I hate that feeling so much when I've been vulnerable with people and then second guess every last detail about how it went. When I read your words, I somehow get the impression that these people were attempting to be supportive, but maybe they were awkward about how to do it, or maybe it was just plain overwhelming for you to get all that attention all at once? SA has a way of making even positive moments feel bad at times, and the rejection sensitive dysphoria may can often come with ADD will tend to make that worse.