It's awfully difficult... but I will give you my interpretation of the situation.
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This last time she said she is not healthy for a realtionship and we should be friends. We are fairly intimate just prior but she would say no to sex, as she stated she needs to be careful and doesnt want to get hurt.
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I take it that she is trying to be strong. Perhaps she realizes that she isn't healthy enough to be able to build & maintain a good romantic relationship right now.
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As friends, it was just as great with no intimacy of course, but still flirting some.
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While you may be willing to be just friends with her, it's quite possible that she doesn't have the willpower to constantly hold up her walls with you. Your ex ought to feel safe that you won't always be pushing her limits, especially during her particularly weak moments in life. That's a lot of pressure. Especially when a person doesn't feel self-assurred enough in their decision-making ability.
I recommend allowing your friend (ex-gf) the space that she needs to feel stronger and healthier if there ever is the right time that comes along between you. I'm sure that you wouldn't want any resentment to grow between the two of you...right? Giving your ex the time and space may be the magic answer. Best wishes sent you both!