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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
This is where you do differ from my single friend, he doesn't believe they will shame him, he feels ashamed within himself as if he is not good enough - which is nonsense, but he recognises his own self-esteem issues.
Can I ask whether you personally have experiences of being directly shamed by a woman for showing an interest in her?
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Well, I don't think that women usually shame the guy directly to his face. Usually they will just silently judge him and then go gossip to their friends about how weird and creepy he is. I hear overhear stuff like that all the time. And aside from that, it's just in the way they look at the guy and talk to him.
And to be honest, part of it is also just me feeling ashamed myself. I sort of choose to believe I am somewhat good looking(wishful thinking maybe), but in reality I am not fully convinced of this and there are many things that make me doubt it. And I do have this feeling that if I unattractive then it is pathetic for me to approach nice looking women thinking they will be interested in me. It is like those really bad singers who go on American Idol to audition.