Yes, I wrote something about this when we had the rupture and I were upset. She didnīt say and I never asked why she wanted to talk things through but back then I were in such a torn state that I just let things happen. She never clearly outspoke the works "Iīll end therapy now", she just said she was hesitant about continuing and that was why I in a way gave up.
Yes, I agree with what you say about negative feelings coming back, thatīs a big part in why Iīm not sure whether I should contact her or not.
I feel itīs more or less impossible to find a T who you never get hurt by and Iīm very sensitive in some situations. I really liked this T and felt she understood me and thatīs why Iīm thinking of contacting her again. I would be very disappointed if she just answered "no" to start therapy again but if I wrote to her about my feelings and my situation and she didnīt care perhaps it would be easier to stop thinking of her. I donīt know.
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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I think you posted about this not long after the rupture and were very upset with her. It didn't sound like it ended well at all and that she was offering a way to have more of an ending, rather than opening the door to return. If I've got that right, then just be clear about why you're contacting her, and if it's to continue therapy then maybe share how your thinking has changed about therapy with her? And, for your own sake, be prepared for those same old feelings of anger and resentment to resurface if she doesn't respond the way you want her to.
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