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Originally Posted by lizardlady
To answer the OP - I don't pick my friends based on appearance. I base it on inner qualities. When I was younger I was so thin I looked anorexic. My best friend was short and overweight. We used to joke that we looked like Mutt and Jeff. Almost 50 years later we are still friends. Over the years she's been there for me when I needed her. I've done the same for her. That's what friends do for each other.
I like your idea to say something to your friend the next time she comments on your weight. You said she can be tactless. Perhaps she tryly doesn't realize that her comments hurt you. If she continues after you say something, it might be time to reconsider this friendship.
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That's great that you have such a great friend! Wow, 50 years is a long time! I'll be lucky if I can keep a friend around for more than 5 years! I don't know if I'm attracting the wrong people or doing the wrong things, but I can't seem to keep friends around for long most of the time, ugh! It seems like once people can tell that you have some baggage, most of them don't want to deal with it and end up avoiding you like hell after finding out about certain flaws. Ugh!
I will definitely say something to my friend IF she does ever make any comments about my weight or anything like that again. If she continues to make those comments, then I will downgrade her from a friend to an acquaintance or stop talking to her maybe. I'd rather be alone than have friends who would make comments that they know are hurtful to me. I can take constructive criticism, but when certain comments are unsolicited, that's not cool.