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Originally Posted by StbGuy
Yeah, you're right, it's not OK at all! It sounds like your friend has a deep-seated resentment all along.
I really don't know why people hate fat people. Try being a fat guy, it's even worse. You still managed to get married, women don't even look in a fat guy's direction.
I think it's a visual thing. People always judge by what they see. You can't see alcoholism, mental issues, drug-addiction, smoking addiction, sex addiction etc. as a physical thing on a person's body, but it just so happens you can see eating disorders. It's the most unfair addiction ever. Thin people can have so many more addictions and problems (and by the way your friend is morbidly addicted to and obsessed with eating healthy plans and dieting) but you'll never know because you can't see it.
And, the only reason so many people sit in the gym too, is because they are addicted to it! Their addiction is no different from my sugar addiction. We both love what we do. They have simply chosen to get addicted to something else that I haven't. Healthy living is an addiction just like unhealthy living.
I think it's time for you to get a new friend.
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First of all, why do you think she would resent me at all? Now, if I was a young, thin, gorgeous model type, then I could see why she'd resent me. That's not the case though! She has told me that I'm pretty before, and some people, including my husband think that I'm pretty still although I don't think that I am most of the time.
She's not ugly IMHO. She's O.K looking. I don't sense any resentment from her at all. She has been nicer to me than anyone else has been to me most of the time in my entire life! I think that she just made a tactless and ignorant comment and has probably regretted saying that. So I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I'm almost certain that IF she does make any comments of this nature again, that she'll back off and not make them anymore once I kindly but firmly tell her not to do so. She is normally a pretty polite person.
I'm sorry to hear about your problems-
Honestly, there are some women who do and can appreciate and love an overweight guy who is kind to them, a good listener, funny, smart, and just a great guy in general. You need to be more confident to attract women. Men can be really brutal with overweight women, ugh! Even the overweight ones, it's terrible! I can't tell if my friend is addicted to a healthy lifestyle or not. She doesn't go overboard with things. She still eats sweets and carbs all the time. Just in moderation.
Sorry to hear about your sugar addiction. I'm sort of addicted to drinking to much at times which isn't good for my weight either. I'm a binge drinker. I drink at home when I'm depressed and stressed out. I also love carbs, but I try not to eat to much of the bad kinds most of the time. I hope that you can overcome your sugar addiction sometime soon.