Hi JoshB, and welcome to PC

First off - yes, I'd say that slamming your door like that (especially when you're sleeping!) is plain old domestic violence. Definitely abuse! Someone doing that to me would be traumatic...especially during sleep. Yikes.

I'm so sorry that you have migraines. I'm 52 now, but until my mid-40's I battled severe migraines that had a very bad effect on my life in general. Migraines are very often stress related...that mind-body loop.

In my experience, most psych meds are sedating, especially the anti-anxiety medications. That's good in that they assist your sleep, but very difficult when the sleepiness persists throughout the day.