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Originally Posted by Zelev
Recently I broke up with my partner and jumped right back into dating. I met this extremely attractive woman. Beautiful body, very petite, clearly she works out. She's 43 years old but could easily pass for 35 yrs old. We had good conversation but a was little distant for me. I pretty much held up the conversation... My last partner was jealous and controlling. I did not like that but in some ways the attention was addictive. I love it when I know a person is totally into me.
That first date we talked but barely touched... no kissing. It ended with a side hug goodbye. Afterwards she texted saying she wanted to go out again and how she enjoyed the date. I thought must have been on a different date or something. We live about an hour and a half apart so the next time we could meet was a week later. This was followed by more texts ending with "my love", kissing emoticons, etc. I was confused but still very interested so I flirted back.
We set up a second date. When she arrived at my place she said it was too late to go out. We decided to watch movies on Netflix. We started kissing, no tongue. I stopped but then she started again same thing and then undressing. Long story short she had chest hairs. I was kind dark so I couldn't see but I could feel them. Very coarse patches over both nipples and in the very center of her chest. She also had a few under her lower lip. They were short like a guys 5 o'clock shadow. She sweats easily.
I faked an orgasm and made sure she was good but I was completely disgusted. I know thats wrong but it really freaked me out. Afterward she asked me if I enjoyed it. I didn't know what to say so I said yes. She was out for the night. Even if I had enjoyed it. My libido is much higher and I tend to get creative. I know even if she were hairless, we wouldn't be sexually compatible.
She claims to be totally into me. She's new to the state so she doesn't have an apartment. She has three kids. One is an adult and two minor daughters who live with the fathers. She struggling financially to get stable so she's renting a room with a family and is not allowed overnight visitors. Now she wants to spend weekends with me.
This is way too much too soon. Sexually we are not compatible. What do I tell her?
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women are just like men they grow hair on their bodies, some more than others and some shave or use a cream rinse that is specifically made for removing hair and some go to salons to get a wax job.
mature women normally do have a bit more hair due to a stage of life similar to puberty called premenopause, menopause and peri menopause. during these stages the hormones women need for reproduction slows down and diminishes which causes more hair growth that is similar and equal to a mans body hair on their arms, legs, chest, back mustache, beard and such.
hate to say this but theres really nothing you can do about it....unless you plan on giving up dating. just how it is adult men and women have hair on their bodies. only children are totally devoid of body hair. unless they shave, wax or have a health problem called alopecia
some people do get comfortable with each other to where one in the relationship can ask the other if they would shave or allow them to shave them as part of foreplay but it takes a very special relationship and commitment from both in the relationship willing to shave it off so to speak.
my suggestion is if a hairy chest bothers you maybe you and who ever you choose to date can talk about this issue before reaching the point of having sex. that usually when people discuss what they like in a partner, relationships and in sex.