With ex-T: when I told her my secret. That was bad. I was sobbing, shaking, rocking... There were a lot of other minor things like telling her I cared about her, asking for a hug, etc. But that was the worst.

How I did it? First, I started with an email. I knew I was going to be a blubbering mess, and I might chicken out otherwise, so I emailed her exactly what I was able to get myself to say. Then I came in next session freaked out. She acted like she didn't read the email! (Maybe she didn't read it after all). I told her I was nervous about the worst thing I wrote about. She didn't have a clue. She had to go get the email and "reread" it. Then she was like "Oh..." And then I broke down and would speak till like the last 10mins? I talked about it in a very vague way, but enough where she understood. That's how I revealed a lot of things: email.