I want to stop wanting a mother figure as well I am working on accepting and trusting the mothering from my therapist. From your previous posts it doesn't seem like your T is willing or does (I could be wrong) the mothering type of therapy which might be beneficial to you. It is helping me with the grief of my own mother (realizing she isn't nor ever will be the mother I want/need/expect) and move forward with seeing her for who she is. Allowing T to be that pseudo mother role is beneficial to me.