I guess both of you would have to describe the mothering you are getting from you T's. We have a great connection, she has me totally figured out, I'm getting the attunement/connection I never had from my mom, we hug at the end, etc. And, we have discussed that she is meeting those needs that were never filled. Also, the ability to talk to someone with out a negative response. I once told her she's treating me like a child (it was a positive thing but I can't remember the incident) and she mentioned that she's in a mother role right now. So, it's there. However, there are things that I just don't think any T. will be able to give me. I have looked into most of the T's in my area and their boundaries/styles are not much different than my T.

And, it seems to be a hard balancing act with the transference. I could go to someone weekly and get all sorts of mothering (if I found someone who would do that) but I think it might actually be harder on me. I was thinking earlier this week that the spacing is helping. I'm not as focused on therapy and can concentrate more on my regular life. I'm also better able to figure out my emotions and where they are coming from. But every once in awhile something will happen to spark it all and it comes back like today.

This will be a topic for my next session..... Just wondered how everyone else handled it.