Sunrise, I have twin daughters. One from birth I astowed all good feelings toward, and the other took all my negative feelings.

Now through my own journey in therapy, I see that neither of them is either/all, both are different and though one "honours" me then the other, proberbly causing her some inner torment trying to hide her true-self to be whom she feels I accept more. The other has decided to remain true to herself and thankfully I am learning to love her for that.

I would worry about thinking one wonderful and the other not, that is what we are attaching to them, I expect there are times your daughter whom you get along better with irritates you?

But we seem to accept that more then with the other. As I grow and change and accept people for who they are, even if that is much different to my fantasys, I find I get along with them both equally now. I've stopped taking their "moods" as if its about me and allow them to have their independent ways and allow them to not want to always be close to me.

I find things are working out so well now, and I enjoy the differences in my relationship with the 2 of them.