I never realized it when I was seeking out close friendships with women my mom's age and older, but it occurred to me one day that I must have been trying to find a mother figure. I never felt like these women would replace my mother in my life, but they did serve a similar purpose. I could bounce ideas off them, get advice, be told the grisly truth, and I had ample opportunities to take care of them. It allowed me to step into the old familiar shoes of caretaker, and that was the part I missed the most.

I never felt this way with T, hope not to feel this way ever again, but once I understood my motivations it went a long way towards relieving that pressure I didn't even realize I was feeling.

Good luck (((((Soccer Mom)))))!