Thanks. Yes, I also feel like this, sometimes though I´m scared because if I get a "no" again, I don´t know how to proceed. I´ve already met with several other T:s and I more or less have noone else to contact as I have to choose among T:s who offer a reduced fee.
I saw this T only 12 times and we never talked about any specific goals as this was a short term therapy that focused on more acute things like trauma. My insurance company paid and the therapy was to focus manily upon unemployment. But noone can solve unemployment issues within such a short time and both my T and I established that my promblems are far more complex than just lacking a job.
Even if no specific goals were met I felt listened to and understood, I felt a bit more happy and a lot of things this T said to me were very applicable to my situation. She also pinpointed several of my problems and I felt therapy could help me forward in life.
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Originally Posted by Leah123
I don't think there's anything better you could do than take the thoughts that you shared here and give them to her. See if she's open to partnering with you again now that you've had time to reflect and now that you're sharing with her that while she may have *felt* or believed that she hindered you from speaking, that was not the reason you may have been quiet.
My only question to you would be, did you make some progress with her on your goals? If you did, I encourage you to contact her again.
Therapy will be painful in my experience, it's not the pain we should realistically hope to avoid- but stagnation. I think avoiding self-destructiveness and a lack of progress are good goals, because the work of therapy is often painful and there can be misunderstandings and disconnects, but a good therapist stays focused on helping at all times and has the tools to help you figure out and progress on your goals.
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