<font color="#000088">I have an OCD of the same type,but not as severe. I have all my things organized and in place,and I can tell if they have been moved even an inch. My clothes in my closet are all hung up according to size and color coordinated. Even my DVD's are set in order to what type of movies they are from horror,to Crime Drama,to Comedy's,and then PS2 games. So I can tell when anything has been disturbed.My books are the same way,subject,alphabetized,and the size of the book. You get the point!
But the difference with me and your fiance, is that if something is moved, I don't fly into a rage about it. I do get irritated,and move it back. But I can't have a roommate because of it,I can't stand having someone come in and mess up my order,and clean apt. or it would drive me nuts.I would'nt throw away a shower thing you were talking about,just because it was moved,and touched, it's gonna get moved and touched when you take your showers anyway! LOGIC! But I can live with myself,but I think it would be hard for someone else to live with me,unless they liked things spotless. And didn't mess things up! But flying into a rage isn't a safe environment for you to be in. My ex-fiance was the same way,and he eventially ended up trying to kill me in one of his rages.Luckily there was a cop right around the corner of our apartment,and kicked the door in and tackled him on the diningroom floor,he had a knife in his hand,and was on his way back in the bedroom to finish what he started.
He didn't know I had already dialed 911 on the cordless after he broke the fan over my head,and face in the bedroom! I was lucky!
Be safe,and be careful!</font>