I'm never really sure if I want a mother figure or not. When I read what normal, healthy moms are like, it sounds like stuff that would be wishful thinking, stuff that would mean I was spoiled or something. I associate a mother with someone who feels obligated to not let you die, or else people would judge her. And that's about it. I see a mother as only a survival safety net in case you're about to die. That's about all I can give my mother credit for, not letting me die on the streets. And I'm also expected to be grateful for that. Someone who is unconditionally loving and supportive, who doesn't try to control you half to death or sabotage your independence, someone who is really there for you and wants you to be genuinely happy? That sounds like fantasy crap to me and honestly makes me uncomfortable.