Thread: How to let go?
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Old Aug 05, 2015, 05:41 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Oh I am not nitpicking or arguing. Sorry if it came across this way.. Didn't mean to. I post while doing 10 other things. My bad

I just didn't want to give op another reason to stick around this nonsensical jerk because they are in "real" relationship. I think in her case even a formal break up is not needed. Just block him and forget he ever existed.

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Fair enough.

The topic of 'real' relationships that are strictly conducted online, is a hot button topic here, I've noticed, through the years.

To the OP, my T suggests there's a fantasy effect when conducting relationships online. And even if meeting, after time, my T also suggests there needs to be a more routine face to face time to get to know a person's quirks, etc, in order to know. The idea is to find what leaves one sticking around for the long term, without reaching that point of knowing if it's a relationship worthy of the long haul or one where it's time to move on.

There were 11 months of emotional investment. People without BPD do this, as well, so probably safe to say, not that. But the pain might be a bit amplified for your BPD? Not sure. Hopefully something you can work through with the medical team that gave you your diagnosis.