SoccerMom, I think you described your therapy goal very well with your own comment:
"I don't necessarily want a new T. so I guess I need to just go through all of this. She has agreed that the more I talk about it and take in what she can give me, the less the pain will be. I guess I'm just not done yet."

It's so very painful, but getting to the place where you can tell the therapist what you long for is a huge step. Also, since I'm in this stage too, I've learned that there's a lot of relationship experience to do yet with T. You just hurt yourself worse by making yourself face independence way ahead of time. Cutting down on sessions won't help but will make it all worse. It's like working at both ends but cutting out the middle.
My T said that in order to become independent, I have to be dependent first.

Maybe it would help to read up some on "Attachment Therapy". It was very encouraging for me, to read up on what to expect from T, as my caregivers were exacting and cruel, too, and I expected to same from therapy, as I didn't know better until T and I got into it deeply.