my 19 yr old pregnant daughter is coming home.....her husband is in iraq and my daughter has been living with his parents in another state for the last 5 mos. BACKGROUND:when she was a teenager she was quite physically and verbally violent....she threw things at me, hit & kicked me, and her older sister, burned me with a cigarette (and said "i'm glad") stole, *****d, etc. etc: we adopted her when she was 2 and in her daddy's eyes she was always the little princess, even tho we had 2 older children who were never in trouble... he refused to deal with her when she acted out....he travelled a lot for his job so i was always the bad guy...in any incident, at home or school, he always believed she was being unjustly accused and took her side no matter what, even if he witnessed her misbehaviour).....from the day she turned 18 she lived from man to man to man until she met the guy she married.....she had known him in person 2 weeks and no one knows if the baby is his) NOW: she is coming home...her daddy, of course, is paying for her ticket...if she chooses to live here he thinks that is great, but if she wants an apt, he will pay for that as well as utilities, tv, etc....i am so STRESSED.......her behaviour has improved somewhat, but she has caused too many (mental) scars on me and i don't want her here.....i do not wish her harm, but if she never entered my life again i would be just fine....my husband, of course, thinks this is horrible....we have fought for several days over her return....last week he said he told her not to come home for now and he would check with her in 2 wks to see how things were going (i think she and her mother in law are not getting along).......i was so surprised and touched that for the first time ever he took note of my concerns and feelings........imagine my surprise when i walked in the office this morning and found him making a plane reservation for her to return here aug. 1st......he says he has done nothing wrong....i feel betrayed..... (and yes, he is already in therapy) i cry a lot and have started cutting again