At some point in my life I got away from a boyfriend who was cruel, abusive, and mentally imbalanced. I was definitely not in love with him. Very early in the relationship we had fun times and were friends, but there followed many years of hardship and dissension. By the time I left I was downright afraid of him - and awful feeling.

After I left the relationship I would have dreams, nearly every night, of the boyfriend and in the dreams, he was gentle and kind - his very best self. I would awaken feeling unsettled and upset. Why dream of this man for whom I did not have loving feelings, a man who it was only good for me to be away from?

Perhaps my subconscious was looking for 'the good' in that man I wanted, at one time, to believe in. I don't know. But after a while I just did my best to accept the dreams and move on, not give them a bunch of attention. I knew I had done the wise thing by leaving the relationship and I decided to allow my subconscious mind to do it's work without me interfering. Eventually the dreams stopped.