Anglea........I'm sorry that you're hurting. I, too, went through something similiar when I was in my 20s. I met the love of my life BUT we were both married to someone else. We talked it over and he left the state with his family. He died 8 years later and I still think about him and how he would deal with things now. I guess he's like a guardian angel on my shoulder.....you can think of your friend like that also. I agree that it is okay to continue loving someone, even if they are with someone else. We had contact occasionally throughout the years and his partners called me when he died and tried to get me to go to the funeral.(They found a letter in his wallet that I had written to him in 1967.) But I didn't want to hurt his family by showing up. I don't think they knew about me, but I knew it would cause questions.......one day soon, I'm going to visit his grave, in Kansas, and tell him about my life, up to now. He died in 1975 of a brain tumor. I still can laugh and cry about things he said to me and do truly know that he was the love of my life. xoxoxoxoxoxo to you, Pat