My mother and I have never really had a great relationship. I really think that there are certain types of people that should never have children, and she is one of them. When I was nine, she decided to move my two brothers and myself across the United States because her boyfriend wanted to move from Pennsylvania to Ohio. She knew that he hated my brother and I (the youngest brother is his child, so of course he didn't hate him), but she chose to move anyways. My brother and I endured three years of unspeakable abuse at the hands of this man, and when I told her about it I was called a liar, and punished with two or more days without leaving my bedroom except to use a bathroom, and was served bread and water in my cell (I mean, bedroom) for meals.

Finally, she wised up and left the guy. However, to this day she will not admit the abuse that occurred, nor will she take responsibility for letting it happen. After she left him, she moved us back home to Ohio, where we are originally from. She got her old job back ( a GREAT job) but lost it within a year because she frequently went to work late and drunk, always with a different excuse. When she lost her job, she started collecting unemployment and bought a lot of Peach Schnapps and a computer. She quickly became a stay at home mother with an addiction to the internet and alcohol. (By this time she was re-married.) She met and slept with a lot of men, sometimes recording tapes, and leaving them laying around. Her husband knew, but never left her.

Because she refused to work and I was the oldest, I went to school from 7am until 12noon, and then work from 2pm until 10pm...doing homework, laundry, cooking meals,paying bills, buying groceries, and checking my brother's homework in my spare time. She became increasingly abusive. Verbally and physically. She also became the Queen of all-expense-paid-guilt trips. To her, nothing mattered as long as she got what she wanted.

My younger brother, when he was 16, decided that he could no longer take the abuse and ridicule from our mother. He moved our and decided that he wanted to have nothing to do with her. He quit speaking to her and severed all ties. I never did.

***Present Day***
I am married, and live on my own. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, GAD, and Severe OCD. My mother is still in my life. I call her occasionally to make sure that she is okay, and to let her know that I am okay. Recently, her boyfriend passed away. She was there when it happened. Since he passed away, she has made it her business to make my life her business.

She calls me, and if I am not home or do not answer the phone, she calls other relatives and friends that she knows I talk to and attempts to get them to tell her where I am at, or at the very least to tell me to call her. I feel as though my privacy is being violated. I can't even call someone without hearing "Your mom called and wants you to call her". I called her tonight, because I got a message from someone, and she says "I haven't heard from you in five days!". Okay...I've gone a lot longer without calling her, and now, all of a sudden, because she is bored, she wants to push her way into my life and control me into calling her.

I'm so mad right now that I don't know what to do. Should I confront her and tell her to quit calling around looking for me...that when I get the damn call on my phone that I will call her? I did not say anything to her yet, because I know that she will call all of the people that I talk to in the family, and some outside of the family and whine about me telling her to stop and beg them to tell her why I don't love her (I do, a lot, but she always tells me that I don't), beg them to tell her what I am up to...etc. She even calls my husband's boss AT WORK, to find out how good of a worker my husband has been this week.

Should I call her and tell her to stop, that she has no right to do this and that I am not going to stand for it, or should I keep quiet so that she does not call everyone I know and whine to them and annoy them to the point where they wash their hands of me just so that they do not have to talk to her?

I AM FED UP!!!!!!!!!!