I am a stay at home mom. My pdoc has strongly encouraged disability but I am against it. I thrived when I worked outside of my home. I am certain I will some day be able to do it again.

I think it is your decision whether you need disability or do not need disability. If you believe that you are capable of work, go for it. Nevermind what those around you suggest; they do not have your determination and they do not know if you will achieve stability. If you try and continue to fail, I believe you will know when it is time to concede.