I'm glad things are better and you are moving on.

I can relate to the way you feel. You mentioned your parents fighting and retreating to your room. I would look there for the source of your struggles, rather than to your Asperger's. As you said you are high functioning,and eventually caught up in school. FWIW I also have a hidden disability. It certainly makes things very difficult.

However, it was only a year ago that I realized that a lot of my problems were due to not getting the love and emotional and physical affection I needed as a child. Also, my parents were not happy. It lead to me having difficulty socially, obsessing about girls, excessively fearing rejection, depression, and to sexualized misplaced efforts to experience affection. With my disability I needed more support and affection, not less. I'm seeing a therapist now.

You might look up "insecure attachment" or "attachment theory", or "childhood emotional neglect", and see if it sounds familiar.