I have a concern about something. My t is gone for a month. Help me nice people.

My whole life I dated lived with and married men who are like my father. Very emotionally unavailable but ambitious successful take charge type a never sit still go getters. Even if they loved me they weren't into me enough to make any kind of sacrifice even minor . They were too much into themselves. Needless to say that isn't working for me so I left them all

I am finally with a man who is very into me and very emotionally available not afraid of commitment and not macho type whatsoever. He is very nice but socially awkward and clumsy a bit and it does get on my nerves . But overall he is someone I see myself possibly happy with

And guess what I create scenarios in my head and nitpick.

I notice every little things and go over it in my head. I become totally obsessed with something bad happening like him taking advantage of me, using me or lying to me. I have no evidence of any of it. He has similar fears because he was abused by his ex worse than me. But he isn't nitpicking.

I on the other hand create idiotic scenarios in my head and go over everything in my head like he is after my money ( he isn't but I knew men who were), he needs me to be his mother ( he doesn't but I am often the one to make plans and be in charge and I didn't used to be with a man like him), he needs too much guidance even with basic things like we are invited to a wedding and he needs help ( not monetary help) with shopping for dress clothes -why doesn't he have dress clothes, his kids are not very successful, he is broke ( he works but has difficulties and debt so do I so why is it bothering me he is broke?) etc etc

Some of it I share with him and some I just brew inside

I am afraid I am on a path of ruining something potentially good. I am not sure if I am doing it on purpose or what not but I need someone talking sense into me. When I am with unavailable men I don't nitpick because I am too busy trying to make them commit or be available. And now I nitpick

Uugghh help!!!!!


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