Hi Lacerta,
I am glad you are ready to face the memories. I have not done CBT but some at Psych Central share their experiences here.
Psych Central - Search results for Experiences with CBT

In my experience, the abusers are not aware they are abusing because they have not faced the fact that they were abused. As long as someone is in denial about making peace with the past, it is too easy for someone who was abused to have a knee jerk reaction and abuse another. It was the way they were brought up.