Do you keep a journal? When that desire approaches, can you write it out, to at least let it out? Or to give it a different spin? I just voiced something to a long time friend, and her perspective spun something that I've struggled with, for a long time, into the direction that I needed to go.

He didn't have dress clothes. He didn't have an inkling as to what would be appropriate for this particular wedding, I'm presuming a completely new social circle, hence trying to please without embarrassment to either of you? Because he doesn't have dress clothes, the fear of what's happened to you financially aroused internally?