I actually find it easier to not spend my time hating all the things in my past. I find it hardest when I have to think about my own past, because anger is exhausting!

I tend to take the "live and let live" approach.... Like... overall I think that people are good (Society in general.... no not really, but individuals I think are generally good), although I definitely have trust issues.

I've found it easier to form friendships and relationships when I spent less time stuck in my past. I started to change things for my own mental health... and then started to find out surprise bonuses - I was able to let people in easier (not very far mind, but still) and I was able to start showing people who I am as a person. I'm still quite hypervigilant towards any "changes" that happen, but I'm cautiously optimistic that the people I try to know are generally good people. Even though I still sometimes get hurt...... I'd have zero chance of ever having something positive if I didn't let anyone in, ever.