Hi

I'm looking for some advice and guidance with respect to controlling & passive agressive behaviours within marriage. My husband and I generally struggle with communication and I can now easily see that a big part of it boils down to my low self esteem and the behaviours I exhibit around this. I have been working on this over the years but I understand that when things get "too much" or i get frustrated because my feelings about things are shut down or rendered invalid; I turn very quickly back to these behaviours and the whole situation worsens. I could write an entire essay with the whole back story but it's not necessarily for here right now.

I do feel a lot of issues are left at my door and if I can change these behaviours I hope that there is some way of saving my marriage. I currently feel lost and that I'm an awful person but I have no idea to get out of this loop of behaviour.

Any advice from those in a similar situation would be much appreciated.