I feel for you all. We all know first hand how disappointing anorgasmia can be. I've mentionned it before on the forum about having to learn to have sex without the expectation of an orgasm. This even stretches so far as to accepting that masturbation need not end with an orgasm, and masturbation was always my fallback.

I know it is hard to understand and implement the concept. Believe me, when my GP and T both told me that I should learn to have intimate encounters without an expectation of an orgasm, I was shocked and confused. I mean what's the point of sex without ending with the pleasurable "bang".

I found that I had to be honest with both myself and my wife. If I felt I was going to have problems at all, I just had to stop trying (wearing myself out and getting frustrated). This meant that sometimes in the "middle" of penetrative vaginal intercourse, I would just pull out and stop. We could/would cuddle, caress, etc. but no more sex. It would allow me to maintain a relatively high positive emotion, meaning I could feel satisfied that I had satisfied her. That CAN be enough.

The other way was/is not useful...emotionally. It is devastating to keep on with penetration, trying harder and harder, eventually physically exhausted, out of breath, and disappointed. Or masturbating...then ejaculating...without an orgasm, I mean how hollow do you think that feels. My penis, prostate and scrotum all did their jobs, but I didn't feel anything...no pleasure.

What I'm trying to say is that it will take some effort...and it won't always be successful. But emotionally it will become much easier, and therefore easier to deal with physically. Although it may not apply equally to women, for men I would challenge you to satisfy your wife...first and only. Personally I can do this thanks to the little blue pill. Once the lovely lady is satisfied, cuddle a bit and then go to sleep. Don't even try to have an orgasm...don't play with it.

If you can learn to stop intercourse while on an emotional high...even without achieving a physical/sexual high, you will eventually be able to accept that as a viable and pleasurable outcome. Meaning that when you do try to orgasm, and it doesn't work, you can still have positive feelings about the intimate activities you participated in.

I hope this helps someone.