(((mountaingirl)))

Poor you, it doesn't sound very easy. I think the best way to resolve it is, if you're ready, next time she calls just say assertively that you would prefer her not to interfere with your life. Tell her how it makes you feel, if you want. After that, don't answer her calls unless you feel like talking to her. You don't have to be mean, just assertive, and hopefully she'll get the message.

That kind of assertive communication can be difficult in a situation like yours tho, maybe talking to a therapist or something could help you?

Good luck, anyway, I'm really sorry that its making you anxious. You are not at fault here.