Hi rainyday - thanks for the welcome. It's me that's been exhibiting it - whenever I try to raise how I feel or what I think is unreasonable I get told I'm passive aggressive & controlling. I can see it sometimes...Perhaps it's my delivery? I'm not terribly articulate compared to him. But it's always there waiting to be highlighted to me. I feel like it's a default behaviour because we're at a point where I feel powerless and in-valid but I'm still being told this. Like I'm not allowed to have a way of feeling because of ways that I've treated him in the past. I put my hands up to these things and did my best to resolve but they hang around in the back ground ready to be pulled out again...cue default behaviour...
I've not been treated fairly either yet those things because he's embarrassed or guilty I guess don't seem to matter that much as an explanation of why I feel like this.

I'm just not sure how to approach it...


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