Then I'm guessing that it's more worry and looking for little signs of what can go wrong?
I've learned as I'm going through my own daddy issues, that the thing about a master manipulator, is that it's insidious because it might not be intentionally done. For instance, I really believe that he believes the things that he says. Currently, he's rewriting history as he's caught up in the romance excitement of a new love. He also gets very excitable at 'gold' prospects. Meaning he does have an addiction to the next big thing. He'd rushed in and dumped 60k without my stepmoms blessing on a business venture that flopped. He rushed out and took out additional loans to fund his further education without consulting with her. He truly believes he's in for a big payday through divorcing my stepmom, who's family owns a financially pricey business, and her mom passed just months before he filed. So, in telling his story to this new woman, he is also changing the reality of my mom's memory to sound like there's only one true love, etc. Will the new woman see it, the way I see it, after a lifetime of seeing him practically manic in his desires to make money? Dunno. I point this out, as you are sorting through whatever natural fears that are creeping into how worried about whether it's a bust or the real deal.