Lise Bourbeau in her book "Heal your wounds and find your true self" describes the first wound, rejection, to explain the evasive mask some people wear. I, myself, identify this mask as the one in individuals with Avoidant personality disorder. But, this is only my view, a personal interpretation after reading her description.

Well, she says that people who wear this mask suffered a rejection from his/her caretakers or at least, the infant lived the situation as a rejection. She even is more specific when she claimes that the rejection came from the same sex caretaker.
This leads the child to reject him/herself and believes that everyone is gonna reject them, specially people the same sex.

In my case, it makes sense because my mother wanted a boy and I was about being given in adoption to my godfather.

I was wondering if you see related to this. Did you feel rejection from your same sex caretaker?