So, me and my fiance have been together for 2.5 years. Since then he has found that he has high anxiety and depression. Especially when he drinks. He went to a psychiatrist who told him quit drinking and it will go away. So he stopped he has been feeling better. I've noticed it, everyone has.
Recently he has been trying to find a job working with his Masters degree. Its so hard. So he got in touch with some recruiting agencies who help you find jobs. Today he took a skills assessment test, he wasnt confident in his skills with excel or typing. He is looking to get into business/ management. He had an interview at a local hardware store today offering a lot more money than he does now. After taking the assessment he stormed out. He went to his parents. He then started texting me saying hes a failure. He is going to stay where he is forever. He is calling the recruiting place Monday and telling them not to help him anymore because he wont get anywhere, he is also cancelling his interview.
He does this very high anxiety behavior a lot, acts irrational, sabotages himself and then doesnt understand why hes not getting anywhere. In turn this boosts my anxiety up, makes me sick, and makes me want to cry. I literally have no idea what to do. He refuses to get the therapy and help he needs all because one doctor told him hes fine, he needs to stop drinking. I'm worried that once we get married he will feel the same way. I don't know how to comfort him without him thinking I feed him ********. I also dont want to see him sabotage himself either.