Are there any men you're close to in your life, whether its family members or friends or even coworkers? Because everything you mentioned isn't really a gender problem, its a human problem. My dad is the nicest man ever and he has the biggest heart I've ever met in anyone - he's the type of person who does good things when no one is looking and he's been the only parent of mine to support me 100% with everything in my life. My mom cheated on him, matter of fact my dad had 2 wives who cheated on him and left him for another man. So in this case, it was the women who were cheaters. So I'm just making a point that a cheater can be a man or a woman. A bad person can be a man or a woman. An abuser can be a man or a woman. I think you just might not have many men in your life to offer you positive views on men. If you're on an island that doesn't produce coconuts, you start believing every island doesn't have coconuts, which just isn't the case. You're painting with a very wide brush in your post, certainly not all men, or even most men, are like that. I'm a woman and I've cheated before. I'm wondering how many of those female friends you asked about getting hit on by taken men, have ever done the same thing. This isn't a gender problem, this is a human problem.