Hi sorry life is such a struggle and a roller coaster for you, I relate to some of what you say and really feel for you. If you can, give the counsellor a chance or, if you don't feel safe with this individual, try another. Counselling can be tough and sometimes you do feel worse if you have talked about something particularly relevant to your issues. If you can understand your issues better it may help you to develop strategies which help you to anticipate and cope with some of your feelings and reactions more easily. There aren't always easy answers to distress and 4 weeks is not long to see a result. I hope you can find a way forward and some more hope in your life.
Ps I have had great benefit from some counselling, while other counsellors have been less helpful. I now know the style and approach which is most helpful to me.