Hi tin. I am sorry the religion you believed in was so unempathetic regarding the disease of alcohol. It seems like this intolerance makes a big challenge in continuing an association with them.

There are some blogs and articles relating to losing your faith and coping with that.
https://www.google.com/url?q=http://...FdjJ6IjFEi3JYw

and others
Psych Central - Search results for Recovering from lost beliefs

Mindfulness offers an alternative to religion with a firm connection to treating people including yourself with compassion.
http://psychcentral.com/search/?Matc...ulness&x=0&y=0