Sometimes I think the red flag behavior can be seen in the clients too. When I put my former T up on a pedestal and believed he could do no wrong - I was setting myself up for trouble. If he had leanings in an unhealthy direction - I would have been a perfect target. If anyone questioned me, I'd blow them off (or getted pissed off at them...and I did!) because he was the center of my universe. When I see people in that situation, it makes me nervous for them.

As far as the T's behavior - I think the first article posted by flowergirl is very good. Some of of the behavior seems pretty innocuous, but in the context of the power differential - I think it's valid.

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