Actually, not to take your idea off topic but... the most ancient of Hebrew words for God is gender specific, being the plural for male gender.

As for your thoughts... and I'm unsure about it being in spirituality forum but I'll see what I can do.... one of the ways to heal is to realize (through process, sometimes called therapy..) that "just" because one male or even several males may have abused does not cause all males to have abused. It's a giant learning that some never make (as we see in many female men-haters in Celebrity Hollywood.) There are countless men who would beat the guy who abused (you) to a pulp, if given the opportunity. Or make sure they were otherwise justifiably punished.