I truly am sorry for the situation you are in. I hope you can find a balance in you sexual relations, with your partner and yourself.

Believe me, my anorgasmia drove me into depression, questioned my marriage, questioned my sexuality...I would cry constantly, avoided contact, avoided sex...I even got to the point where I sat down to pee so I wouldn't have to touch my penis because it would remind me of my numbness and anorgasmia.

I understand that the situations are similar but at the same time have aspects specific to each of our genders, but I had to learn or lose more. I know for years my wife never got satisfied because of my earlier premature ejaculation. Now the tables are turned. If we stuck with status quo, neither of us would go anywhere.

I can't tell you how hard it is to not finish...I can't tell you how to find an "emotional high". I just had to get passed it...find a way. Because stopping all intimacy would have meant a worse life...and maybe a lost marriage.